It sounds like you have a really difficult situation going on. You say that you’re “in love” and he’s not, but do you mean to say that he has never expressed any interest in you at all (romantically)? Do you think he’s hiding it?
From the advice that I’ve read, it sounds like there are two possibilities. The first is that your friend isn’t really into you and he just tolerates your feelings for him. He may be embarrassed or uncomfortable with how you feel about them so he’s just going along with it to avoid hurting your feelings.
It sounds like this may be the case because you say that he doesn’t want a relationship and not. This could be a sign. He’s not really feeling those same emotions as you are. The other possibility is that maybe your friend is bisexual or curious about men. I’m only speculating, but maybe he’s thought about men before and has feelings for them. So he just doesn’t feel that way about women. It could be possible that he is really into you but the rest of the things in his life are preventing him from being able to pursue anything with you.
I know it sucks because you have feelings for him, but there are still a lot of unknowns in this situation. From what you’ve written though it definitely sounds like he’s not interested in being romantically involved with you. I would say that your friend feels really awkward about how you feel about them and they’re just trying to avoid hurting your feelings.
I can’t give you much advice because there are still a lot of unknowns in your situation, but what I would suggest is to try not put too much pressure on yourself or them. You want them to be happy and if he’s “in love” with someone else, it has nothing to do with how you feel about him. Just try to be supportive in whatever they do and hope that you’re able to maintain your friendship.
If there’s anything else I can say, it would just be to try not to put too much pressure on yourself or them because neither one of you are ready for a relationship right now. Try focusing on being supportive in whatever they do and just being their friend while you wait for something more to happen.
I’m in a really tough spot right now and I don’t know what to do
Hi, so I currently have about of bad luck going on with my love life. A few months ago I was dating a guy who broke up with me because he wasn’t ready to commit “right now” and he needs to figure some things out. Months go by and we barely talk because I have a lot going on in my life right now. However, I constantly try reaching out every so often.
I’ve been talking to the guy who is a friend of a friend for a while now because I needed someone to talk to. He’s always there for me, He feels strongly about my happiness and well being. However, my ex is still in the picture because we haven’t moved on completely but were talking again. Because of this, I just don’t know what to do right now or who to focus on.
It sounds like you have a lot of things going on in your life right now. There are many factors to be considered, but I think the most important thing is whether or not you guys are actually over each other. If the breakup was recent then it’s understandable that you haven’t been able to completely move on just yet, but it sounds like he wasn’t really ready to commit anyway.
Another thing you have to consider is if he’s over you or not. If he was the one that wanted the break up then it’s possible that he might still have feelings for you and wants to be with you again. However, there are also other possibilities. The breakup could have been mutual, perhaps you guys broke up because one or both of you was unsure about how you felt.
This may sound like the main issue right now with your ex is that he’s not sure what he really wants, but I think it sounds like there are actually a lot of factors that go into this whole situation. There are so many unknowns in your life right now and I think that’s why you’re feeling conflicted.
I don’t know if your ex is still trying to figure out what he really wants, but I do think it would be a good idea for the two of you to talk about this. You want him to feel like he can tell you anything, especially since things ended so abruptly. Since it seems like you both still care about each other, there’s no reason to rush things.
Just take this time for yourself and try not to put too much pressure on the situation because there are factors to consider right now. If your ex is trying to figure out if he wants to be with you then that’s something you can’t really control. All you have to do is try being his friend and support him in whatever he does. I know it’s frustrating because there are so many unknowns right now, but just try focusing on yourself instead of the situation.
I feel like I’m driving my best friend away
Hi! I really need help. I have been best friends with the girl for a long time now and we met in college 2 years ago. We both going to the same school but she had a boyfriend back then and he was my professor. Now they’re divorced and we’ve been thinking of moving together somewhere, but things haven’t been going well lately.