One of the common mistakes women make when trying to get a guy to chase them is that they will push the guy away or reject him before he gets a chance to leave her. This may be out of either fear of rejection or just plain old bitterness and past hurt.
There are several reasons why you might push away someone interested in chasing after you:
Be confident and self-assured: Even if you have a bad day, don’t let him see it. Make sure you are looking best, even on the days when you aren’t feeling your best. If he asks about it, be honest but make sure to present yourself in the most favourable light possible. It is essential that you aren’t afraid to look bad around him. If you are, he will pick up on that fear and run for the hills.
If you notice that your new man is nervous around you or has a hard time making eye contact, this could indicate shyness but could also be due to a lack of interest.
Just don’t beat around the bush if you are feeling like your guy isn’t really interested in getting to know you or is taking you for granted. Be upfront with him and make it clear that his behaviour is not acceptable to you.
If your guy isn’t willing to invest in getting to know you, then what will convince him to stick around? One way is by making yourself seem like an impossible challenge.
You were letting him down gently will encourage him to try harder because it will seem like a challenge, whereas if you were to reject him harshly, he might take it personally and be less likely to come back with a second attempt.
Keep a distance from him even if he’s following you around.
An interested man will always want to be closer, but you have to make sure that the pace is slow enough for him to keep up without feeling suffocated.
Most men don’t like it when they feel like they are on a leash or that their every move is being watched, so try not to be overly controlling.
The more you open up to him, the closer he will want to get and if you’re not ready for that, it can be discouraging, resulting in him avoiding initiating close contact until he feels like it won’t put you off.
Don’t be too eager to please.
Men don’t like it when you try to change them or constantly find faults in their behaviour.
If you smother him with affection and give in to his every whim, he will start to feel like he has no control over the situation and will begin feeling trapped and suffocated.
You shouldn’t be afraid to tell him when you need some time to yourself, don’t think it means he doesn’t love you.
If there is something wrong in the relationship and your guy still wants to see you but isn’t willing to spend time with you in a manner that makes you comfortable, he is not worth your time.
Make sure your body language is open
Let him come to you rather than coming to him.
The more space between the two of you, the more interested he will become in getting closer to you. You don’t have to be afraid of rejection if you give off the right signals. Men are naturally drawn to women who are confident and open about their sexuality.
Make it clear that you are just dating to have fun
If he senses that you might be getting ready to throw in the towel if things don’t work out, the chances are good that he will start making moves faster than ever before.
The last thing he wants is, to be involved in a serious relationship with someone who has no intention of ever making it official. If you want things to move at the pace that he is comfortable with, you need to make sure, all of your cards are on the table.
Show interest in his hobbies and ask questions
By asking questions, you show that you are passionate about learning more about him which is attractive to most men.
If he’s not willing to talk about himself in-depth, he might be holding back for fear of revealing too much or being honest with you. Either way, it’s a red flag. You shouldn’t have to go around in circles trying to figure him out; if he’s not willing to be open with you, then it is likely that he’s hiding something.
If he asks for your number, tell him you’re not interested in giving it to him
he’ll chase after you more aggressively. Asking for your number is an unmistakable signal that he is interested in you and wants to get in contact with you again.
However, there are times when a man can be a little bit too forward with his intentions, so if this happens, try teasing him by telling him you’d instead not give out your number just yet. You can also go back to the number-requesting process described above.
Remember that it’s not just your number that you should be hesitant about giving out. You should never give any personal details without first agreeing to meet up with him in person.
This includes your address or other personal information like where you work
A bad dating experience will deter men from wanting to date you and can be pretty discouraging. By reading and following above instructions, You will always be in control of your relationships. Keep the pace at which things move slow, and don’t let him walk all over you. You want to make sure that he’s respectful and willing to treat you with respect.